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Fantasy vs. Truth (& 50 Shades of Grey) by Leia Shaw + Giveaway

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Fantasy versus Truth by Leia Shaw, author of Destiny Bewitched

 

“Did you read that 15 Shades book?” my aunt whispered conspiratorially at Easter dinner.

Yes, I’m blogging about that. Sort of. You might think a post about 50 Shades is likened to beating a authordead horse. I thought so too. But no, the horse is very much alive. In fact, it was on the radio last week. The topic, not the horse. Nobody knows what happened to the horse. 

So why am I bringing it up? Well, I like to analyze things. Not scientifically of course – that’s too much work. But I do pay attention to human nature. And I have a thing for studying patterns and trends as it relates to my career. EL James has done something right. And when someone does something THAT right (meaning a million dollar empire and movie deal), I wanna know why and how so I can copy it. So here’s what I, analyzer extraordinaire who whips these posts together last minute and wouldn’t know real research if it dropped an anvil on my head (in the name of research), ascertained. 

Women like a project.

We see someone hurting, we want to fix them. We see someone sick, we want to make them better. We see orphans on TV, we want to give them a hug and be their mommy forever. I have two adopted kids, you don’t have to tell me about wanting to heal the world. 

Is it a woman thing – some deeply engrained mothering instinct that demands we fix broken people? Different from a man, who sees a broken table and immediately attaches his manliness to his ability to fix it – like his penis will magically fall off if he needs help.

I’ve seen women fall into this “If he just (enter character trait or action) he’d be perfect” trap too many times. We make the assumption that WE can be the person that finally makes the man see the light. We can turn the bad boy good. The commitment-phobe knuckle-down and propose. Hallelujah, the man has reached his full potential and it’s all because of this miracle-worker!  

50 shades of grey coverIn 50 Shades we watch Christian Grey through Ana’s eyes. He’s a hurt, broken man, traumatized by a horrific early childhood, who just needs a good woman to understand and love him. The fact that he happens to be rich, handsome, and kinky only makes him more desirable. Imagine! I can heal this poor man while he buys me fancy jewelry and gives me the best sex of my life! How deeply satisfying that must feel. In more ways than one. No wonder women are going crazy for him.

In the real world, people rarely make dramatic changes. I believe everyone is a work in progress, but I also think it’s incredibly stupid to marry someone with the hope of changing them. If you don’t love them unconditionally and you can’t live with them exactly as they are right here and right now, you have no business getting married.

But we’re not talking about real life, are we? No. 50 Shades is an erotic work of fiction. Fantasy. And if in my fantasy, I want to turn hot, rich Christian into the perfect man, well, get the hell out of my way. It’s my fantasy life.

I know all about fantasy. Not only is Destiny Bewitched set almost entirely in the Underworld, where magic rules and nightmarish creatures stalk the land, but Geo, the hero, is the quintessential alpha man. Possessive, protective, self-confident, and hot as hell! He’s the ultimate fantasy. But unlike Christian, Geo isn’t a project that needs to be fixed. And Samantha has enough of her own problems to deal with someone else’s. A needy man isn’t a realistic partner. Especially when she’s forced to fight in the Underworld Games – a supernatural version of Gladiators – to rescue her younger sister. She needs someone that can stand by her side and sometimes even hold her up when her knees threaten to buckle. Here’s an example:

Her breath quickened and tears formed in her eyes. She looked back in a panic. “It’s so violent. My sister…oh God!”

He held her shoulders and gave her a shake. “Get control of yourself.”

She started to tremble and her eyes darted around, unfocused.

He grabbed her chin and forced her to look at him. “Stop this. You need to keep your head on straight if you want to save her.”

She stilled.

“You said your sister has no magic yet. They won’t put her in the fights. It’d be a slaughter and that doesn’t make for good betting. Most likely they’ve got her locked in a room somewhere waiting for your father to come for her.”

He paused and she nodded her understanding.

“Now, you won’t be helping her if you lose your head. We have to play the game until we find her. That means you have to take this competition seriously. They may make us fight this very night. People die here, Samantha.”

She blanched but he didn’t reassure her. 

“I need you focused and at your best. Can you do that? Because if not, we’re turning right back around and going to the portal.” Fuck the blood oath. He’d find a way out of it.

“I can do it.” With her eyes, she pleaded. “Please.”

He released her shoulders and stepped back. “Alright. But I better not see you panic like that again. You’ll get us both killed.”

She nodded. “I won’t. I promise. I just…freaked out a little. It won’t happen again.”

Gods he wanted to clutch her to him. Every instinct he had screamed to get her out of there. He sighed deeply. “Good.”

A real man stands on his own two feet. Because if he can’t, how can those around him? And now I’ll leave you with this bit of wisdom. My experience with trying to heal the world has taught me one significant truth women tend to overlook. People aren’t like broken tables. They can’t always be fixed no matter how much you love and care for them. No matter how much time and attention you give them. Even when you think you have all the right pieces…sometimes they just can’t be made whole again.

So have a great time with your fantasy life. Heal those poor 50 shades of brokenness while being tied to the bed and pleasured for hours on end. But make sure, when it comes down to it, you know the difference between fantasy and truth.

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About the author:

I began my writing journey while I was stranded at the airport waiting for my delayed flight. I browsed the Border’s kiosk and grew frustrated that I couldn’t find the “it factor” — the perfect combination of alpha male-ness, ass-kickery, strong females, magic, and sex.

 Now I spend too much time in my head, plotting evil villains and the hot men (and women) who ruthlessly kill them. I think far too much about fae politics, dragon power games, and how fast werewolves can change forms. But writing my paranormal romance series has given me a productive place to express those dark places in my mind.

 I live in New England with my husband and two kids. Though I will go to my grave denying it, my husband insists I would be thrilled if he suddenly sprouted fangs.

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Destiny Bewitched

(Shadows of Destiny, #4) 

by Leia Shaw

 Published June 22nd 2012

 Amazon

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Deemed “trailer trash” by humans and the daughter of the most disgraceful family of witches and warlocks since the Puritan age, Samantha is used to fighting her own battles. When her younger sister is taken to the Underworld, Sam doesn’t hesitate to rescue her. To survive the harsh land, she makes a deal with a demon — the most dangerous of creatures in the realm. Even with those lustrous horns, Geo is as hot as the hell she’s stuck in. Fighting nasty beasts in a supernatural version of the gladiator games is easy compared to falling in love with a man who has no future to offer.

 

 

 

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About the author

Nat

She is an avid romance reader who started discovering romance novels two years ago. Nat loves romantic fiction and her favorite sub genres are historical, erotic, sci-fi and fantasy. You can always contact her at readingromances.contact @ gmail . com , and for more information about Nat and Reading Romances go to the ABOUT page.

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  1. Mary Preston

    Fascinating thank you!!

    (Got to feel sorry for the horse. I did laugh!!)

    marypres(AT)gmail(DOT)com

    1. leia shaw

      always happy to make someone laugh today. thanks for stopping by!

  2. books4me

    Good post! I haven’t read 50 shades of grey and although I’m curious what all the hype is about I’m not running to purchase the book. YOUR book, now, is a different story! I love the excerpt and with it being book FOUR (how could you NOT tell me about the series earlier?! LOL), I better get reading!

    books4me67 at ymail dot com

    1. Nat

      I’m in no hurry to buy 50 shades, I’m not a huge fan of bdsm! But for those who’ve never read it, it’s gotta be a good start for all the hype!

    2. leia shaw

      yay! well i hope you like it if you read any of mine! i certainly enjoyed writing them.

  3. Vanessa N.

    Great excerpt. Definitely have me hooked.

    mythic021@gmail.com

    1. leia shaw

      thanks! hope you’ll take a chance and check out one of my books!

  4. Goddess Fish Promotions

    Thank you for hosting Leia today

  5. Brunette LIbrarian

    :) Ha! I work in a library and I’ve had people ask if we had that 15 Shades book :)

    1. Nat

      haha!

    2. leia shaw

      really? lmao!

  6. Leia Shaw

    Thank you so much for having me today! I had so much fun writing this post and I hope readers enjoy it. I’ll check back later tonight if anyone has questions about me or my books!

    1. Nat

      Thanks for stopping by Leia! It’s a pleasure to have you here =)

  7. Mel Bourn

    That is so funny about being asked about the 15 Shades book. I haven’t read it yet, not sure I will. But I have several friends that have asked me as well, in a whisper. I think they were shocked when I said, “Let me know when you are ready for more authors and books. I have lots!”

    I have all of Leia’s books and love them! Here’s hoping you get that multimillion dollar contract!
    Mel
    bournmelissa at hotmail dot com

    1. Nat

      LOL!! I believe they must have been very impressed about your comment =P

    2. leia shaw

      thanks Mel! I’d like a multimillion dollar contract too. lol.

  8. CassandraG

    I haven’t read 50 shades of Grey either and I’m in no hurry to buy it just yet either. Your book sounds like a very interesting read. Nice post and excerpt.

    1. Nat

      Neither have I!

    2. leia shaw

      thank you and hope you like it if you try one of mine!

  9. Trix

    From what I’ve heard about Fifty Shades of Grey, it assumes that anyone who is into BDSM must be broken in some way. Even though I don’t live the lifestyle, that sounds untrue and disrespectful. I loved your post…had to chuckle at your husband’s remark about the fangs!

    1. leia shaw

      thanks and yes, my husband can be very funny about my career. lol. a lot of people have the same thought as you about the 50 shades series.

  10. Deb P

    I have heard about Fifty Shades of Grey,but have not read it yet. I have only read one BDSM book, wasn’t that crazy about it. But I have been reading alot of werewolves novels.

    1. leia shaw

      werewolves are fun! check out Destiny Unchained – features a werewolf hero.

  11. Carin W

    I have to totally agree with you and the women love a project, I think that is why it is a theme in so many romance novels. Its not a character flaw it just is part of our make up. I enjoyed the excerpt very much. Thanks you.

    1. leia shaw

      glad you enjoyed it. and yes, seems a popular theme for romance novels, especially older ones. i try to steer away from projects as characters in my book. hopefully i’m doing a good job ;)

  12. Heidi G.

    I have no amount of words that can describe how much I REALLY dislike 50 Shades of Grey. Which makes me a fish swimming against the current. I tried reading it, put myself out of misery half way through second book. I don’t like Twilight either…Yes, I really like being the Star-bellied Sneetch.

    That being said. I love, love, love Geo and Sam in Destiny Bewitched. I highly recommend the book and the rest of the series.

    1. Nat

      It also doesn’t sound like a book I would enjoy and I’m really not a big twilight fan, I hope I don’t end up hating it!!

  13. momjane

    I loved reading your interview and comments about 50 shades of grey. However, I really don’t have any interest in reading it. Your story sounds a little different and a lot of fun to read.

    1. leia shaw

      my books are very different. hope you give them a try!

  14. Melissa Anderson

    I have read both books and liked both but I’m different to what most people like and dislike. Your take on 50 shades is every valid on all points so I think its a book that is not for all but some others love it so I say to each her own. Thanks Melissa

    Manderson223@cox.net

  15. Delphina

    I just wanted to say that I love Geo!!!! That is all :) .

    1. leia shaw

      thanks Delphina!

  16. Gerri Bowen

    You’re right Leia, progress is slow and we are all a work in progress. Some works we need to avoid though. :)

    1. leia shaw

      yep, and that’s my point. lol. though there’s never one right answer that fits everybody.

  17. Marian Lanouette

    I read all three books. Not my cup of tea normally but kudos to the author for creating such a stir. Good luck, Leia, with your books.

    1. leia shaw

      thanks Marian!

  18. Sandy Wolters

    What a great post. I’m totally in agreement when it comes to women and projects. It is our nature and duty to fix things. LOL

    1. leia shaw

      not sure about duty, lol, but definitely our nature!

  19. Julianne

    I haven’t read any of the 50 Shades books. I’m probably the only one. hehe But I tend to be the one who doesn’t follow the pack. Oh, I’m sure I’ll read it someday, but by then there will be something new for everyone to ooohhh and ahhhh about.
    I love the cover for Destiny Bewitched and I’m looking forward to reading this series.

    1. leia shaw

      thanks and i hope you enjoy it!

  20. Kim

    See, this is why I like your writing so much! You get me! When all these people were on about the “mommy porn” of 50 Shades I was going “Wait! There’s a real story here, real characters with multiple sides.”. I wasn’t interested in changing people’s minds with my own opinions but I did want them to form their OWN opinions instead of going along with whomever was speaking the loudest. I happen to love reading your views, reviews and ideas and plan to continue for as long as you give them a voice. Thanks for your words Leia!

    1. leia shaw

      thanks so much Kim! that was my point with the first post i wrote about it. there’s more to the story but i won’t go into that now. lol. thanks for commenting!

  21. Sunnymay

    I like the quote “Did you read 15 shades?” as it reminds me of what happens to the original thought when it goes through a few hands like the old-fashioned game of telephone. There’s always something that gets lost in translation as the message is relayed to another set of ears and the origninal is far from where the last saying cycles around to. I heard there’s a lingerie tie-in for this book. It seems to be one of those sizzling passionate tales.

    1. leia shaw

      lol. didn’t think of that.

  22. Bobbi

    Great post, Leia, interesting take on the 50 shades hype. Read all 3 of the shades. Thought the character of Christian was well developed, three dimensional, however the character of Anastasia, not so much. I agree, EJ James is a marketing genius!

    Loved your excerpt, drew me in, made me want to read more.

    1. leia shaw

      thanks! and yeah, i did like christian. i think most people have a problem with ana though. but we can learn from everything.

  23. Linda Meza

    I also haven’t read the 50 shades books. I have read too many good sexy books for the last few years to be taken in by this book. When I have heard the book described it actually doesn’t sound as exciting as many of the other books out there. Like yours, Cherise Sinclair, Emma Holly or Kallypso Masters. My hubby did suggest he read it. He normally doesn’t read books like that so I told him hmmmm Maybe you can learn something new!!! HeHeHe
    Thanks for the great blog.
    Linda Meza

    1. leia shaw

      interesting for hubby to read. never know what tricks he might pick up ;) lol. thanks for coming by!

    2. Nat

      hahaha! Maybe he will!! I love Emma Holly…

  24. leia shaw

    i agree. to each his own. every book has an audience. thanks for coming by!

  25. Charity Costa

    Hmm you defiantly gave me some food for thought, I linked this to a friend of mine and we are gonna sit and have a chat about your post cause we asked ourselves the same thing, with so many AMAZING adult fiction out there how the hell did this book get the attention it did while so many others go so unnoticed.

    And I’m going to go get Destiny Bewitched cause that sound like an amazing book.

    Thanks so much for your thoughts

    Charity Costa
    Emissary of Literal Addiction
    Literaladdiction.com

    1. Leia Shaw

      wow. awesome. i’m interested in knowing how that chat goes. lol. glad you got something from it. i stand by my view points about women though i think it’s definitely a generatlization.

  26. bn100

    Nice post and excerpt. Your book sounds good.

    bn100candg(at)hotmail(dot)com

    1. Leia Shaw

      Thank you!

  27. Debbie McClure

    Excellent post Leia, and what an insightful one at that. What you say is very much along the lines of the infamous Serenity Prayer, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.”

    It’s the wisdom to know the difference that seems to be the problem for most women (and men afflicted with this social malfunction).

    1. Leia Shaw

      thank you. i try to be insightful once and a while. most of the time i’m just a class clown. lol.

  28. Iris

    Loved the post, Leia.

    Came over from a FB link, cause of curiosity. Of course. I’m nosy. Everyone is talking about 50 shades (loved the way your aunt refered to it as 15) … anyway, no tv program that is not mentioning it or the radio. I’m too afraid to open the newspaper to be honest.

    Havne’t read the 50 shades yet, not sure whether it’s my cup of tea, but congratulations to the author finding that little niche and making millions!

  29. Julie S.

    I both hated and loved the 50 Shades trilogy, and I definitely agree with you that women really want to fix and mother someone. Of course we enjoyed the story of Anna getting to “save” Christian from himself.

  30. LisaC

    So impressive that you decided to write the kind of books you wanted to read but couldn’t find.

  31. Gale Nelson

    great review. gale pgan427 at yahoo dot com

  32. Adrienne gordon

    I like the review.

  33. Margaret Smith

    Great review. I really want to read 50 Shades of Grey. Sounds really great.

  34. tamar

    Great interview. thanks!

  35. Daniel M

    good interview, will probably read the 50 shades at some point

  36. Jessie C.

    Thank you for the great review.

  37. Kyl Neusch

    good interview you had

  38. DARLA KIDDER

    I have never read BDSM but I love reading Erotic Romance.

  39. Judith R.

    Either EL James has done something right or the promotion department has. My local used book store has dozens of copies of former best sellers. When a book sells well but isn’t very good, it ends up in used book stores by the dozens because the original buyers don’t want to pass the book on to their friends. Good books are passed on to friends and don’t end up in the used book stores.

  40. April V.

    I have no desire to attempt ‘fixing’ a man. Probably due to the 13 years I’ve already spent on a project like that. With no satisfactory end in sight. I have no desire to read the book as I’ve heard way too much about it and he doesn’t sound like anything I want to spend time with.

  41. Andie Wardlow

    Great excerpt…can’t wait to read this one!
    andieleah78@gmail.com

  42. Cynthia C

    Love to read and enjoy reading reviews. Thanks for a good one.

  43. Katie Rose

    I SOO agree, you can’t plan on people ever getting “fixed” (and who knows, maybe you are the broken one and needs fixin’).

  44. Sarah

    I have not read any of the 50 shades books.

  45. Ed Nemmers

    I like the cover of “Destiny Bewitched”!

  46. Tricha

    I am in the middle of reading the second Shades book. A friend of mine kept encouraging me to read them and I finally gave in. I have really enjoyed them so far.

  47. Denise Donaldson

    Great book

    itsjustme62613 at gmail.com

  48. Amy D

    Awesome review!

  49. Maegan Morin

    Thanks for the post! It was a refreshing read

  50. Sumer

    I’ve been wanting to read 50 shades of grey for a while now! great contest!

  51. Dee

    Great review Leia! Haven’t read the book yet, odd one out in my circle of friends:-) Thank you for the contest.

  52. Susan Smith

    Good interview and review

  53. Kat

    I haven’t read 50 shades of grey yet but everyone is talking about it so I think I should read it sometime soon.

  54. Amy Z

    What a great giveaway! Man, everybody’s talking about this book – I think I need to jump on the ol’ bandwagon too!

  55. Erica C.

    Sounds great!

  56. Stacey Cockrell

    I haven’t read the 50 Shades books. I like the excerpt, look forward to reading the book.

  57. latisha depoortere

    Thank you for sharing would love to read this book! What a great post and Thank you for the great giveaway too!
    Latisha D
    tishajean@ charter.net

  58. Heather S

    I haven’t read 50 shades and it really doesn’t draw me. I may read it at some point. I do agree with what you said people rarely change especially if it is a major change. We get comfortable with our routines/patterns and it is hard to permanently break from them. You should never hope to change or fix someone as they have to do that themselves. You can be supportive but like you said you have to love them for who they are right then and never expect any change (if there is some that is an added bonus but should not be expected/demanded as that doesn’t ever work).

  59. Sand

    I haven’t read it but so many people have told me about it that I’m wondering if it’s worth reading.

  60. Gianna

    Thanks for the giveaway!

  61. Sarah L

    Looks like a book I would like. Thanks for letting me know about it.
    Thanks for the contest.

  62. DanV

    Great tips, thanks

  63. Teresa Thompson

    Awesome post. I havent read the books yet but would like to.

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